5 Things That Matter Today That Will Not Matter In A Few Years! (Note From My 16-Year Old Self)
Finding the perfect outfit to wear, endless battle of what color compliments my dark skin, searching for new hairstyle to cut my hair, staying updated with the trends and how to look like a million-dollar baby without spending a lot of money. These are just a few of the many problems that my teen self had encountered. As I look back, my mind as a teenager was like a circus, creative, bright but messy.
1. Having fair skin doesn’t guarantee that you will be happy and be beautiful. If you told me this while I was still in school, I would’ve probably look at you indifferently and say “you know nothing about happiness and beauty”. As an asian girl with dark skin, I got teased a lot because of it and it has been one of my goals in life to have that snow-white skin I see on TV and Magazines. Society has planted on my mind that in order to fit in and be beautiful, I should achieve a whiter skin. If you don’t believe me, check the stores and beauty section in Southeast Asia, majority of the products promises to give you fairer skin in 7 days or less. It wasn’t until I travelled abroad that I realized I don’t need to be white to be happy and look beautiful. I don’t have a problem and I’m not against people who want fairer skin. Because I was once like you. But I only want you to know that you are beautiful no matter what skin color you’re in.
2. Being the coolest kid in school will not always land you with the coolest job. I’m not saying that you should be uncool in school because you can be a cool kid with great math skills or you’re cool because you’re top in class. But we all know that one person (or maybe a group of friends) who cares more about looking good (or swag?!) than doing good in class. There’s nothing wrong with having swag, but make sure your grades are swagger. At 25, I realized that a woman with beautiful face will capture eyes, but a woman with a beautiful soul and mind will capture hearts. Intelligent is the new sexy!
3. Changing hair colors is not a necessity in a teen’s life. I could still remember me and my friends will go to the store and buy cheap hair dyes that smell like a chemical bomb so we can dye our hair and look cool. Ah, fun times. Until I discovered bleach. And went from highlights to bleaching most of my hair. It badly needs CPR! There’s nothing more damaging than using harsh, cheap chemicals on your hair and ruin your naturally beautiful mane. If you badly want to change your hair color, use high-quality products and save yourself from having a dry, damaged hair in the future. If I could turn back time, I would’ve embraced my black hair and wore it like a queen.
4. Drinking green tea is smarter than gulping soda like it’s water. Soda was part of my breakfast in school, for quite a while. My friends and I would buy a liter and we will consume everything before our next subject starts. Super unhealthy habit that got me into trouble. If only I had known the benefits of tea, I wouldn’t have skipped that warm cup for a cold glass of soda! Learned the hard way and got sick, now I’m totally off sodas and definitely not missing it!
5. You may fail, and that’s okay. But it’s not okay to give up. I used to feel like it’s the end of the world when I fail. If things didn’t go my way or I didn’t get the things I want, I get very frustrated. It was so easy to be depressed at something back in those days but now that I’m older, I wish I didn’t sulk that much. Haha! When I fail at something now, I’ll just move on and do better next time. Life is really short to be sad. Bad things happen to everyone, but it is our attitude that matters and differs.