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Millennials, Dating And Social Media

Millennials, Dating And Social Media

If this was a romantic novel, we would have titled it “Love in the Time of Social Media”. However, we won’t be sharing an epic love story with you today, but don’t go away, because we’re here to talk about a serious topic that concerns all Millennials (people reaching young adulthood in the early 21st century). Dating and social media have been coexisting for quite some time now and this intriguing combination is constantly redefining romance for millions of young people. They all want to become Instagram stars with thousands of admirers and suitors. However, most of them want to achieve this goal without leaving their comfort zone and this new age of technology allows them exactly that. Now, let’s see the full impact social media has on these young minds and their dating life.

Flirting Via Facebook Chat Is Much Easier Than Approaching Someone In Person

It’s no secret that younger generations suffer from social anxiety which makes them rather awkward in public. This is exactly why they prefer not to leave their comfort zones. They are extremely vulnerable and, let’s face it, approaching someone in person can be terrifying. These youngsters simply can’t deal with this particular level of stress, so they choose to stay at home and flirt with people while sitting comfortably behind their laptops. Chats and applications like Facebook Messenger allow them to analyze the thing they want to say and they are not able to do this in person.

They Don’t Talk, They “Follow” Each Other On Twitter

Yes, social media has made it easier for anxious people to flirt and enjoy the perks dating life, but there are certain negative effects people usually neglect. For example, since these networks appeared, young people practically stopped talking to each other. It’s all on the internet now. They tweet every single moment of their life, so when you think about it, they really don’t have much to talk about during real-life conversations. Nowadays, most Millennials know everything about their friends just by following them on Twitter.  This eliminates the need for socialization and that can be rather dangerous.

It’s Easier For Them To Lie

Unfortunately, lying is a big part of the dating world, however, lying in person is much harder than via the Internet. People are constantly exaggerating in order to impress their date, and these social media platforms allow them to get away with it. Nonetheless, the truth always prevails in the end and this kind of behavior causes a lot of trust issues among young daters.

Rejections Via Chat Can Rather Brutal

Everyone is afraid of rejection. This is the number one fear in the world of dating and it’s completely natural. Now, even though approaching someone online can be easy, rejecting a person can be even easier. This basically means that people don’t have empathy and compassion when they’re turning someone down. It’s safe to say that online rejections can be pretty brutal and devastating. This type of a turn down can shatter anyone’s confidence, so it’s no wonder people nowadays don’t have the courage to ask someone out.

How Would Frank Underwood Write His Online Dating Profile?

How Would Frank Underwood Write His Online Dating Profile?

Well, if you’re into dating older men, and have the hots for megalomaniacs, you’d probably fall for someone like Frank Underwood from the acclaimed Netflix show ‘House of Cards’. So what kind of profile would someone who is is very pragmatic, ruthless and above all selfish? It would definitely not be an honest one that’s for sure.

 

There are many younger women who get drawn into the mystique of dating older men, since they can be very intelligent and even empathetic like Frank, who comes across as very self-assured and suave. He knows how to intuit what the other feels, but someone like Frank wouldn’t care, he would use it to his advantage. So you could expect a profile that listed all his accomplishments to draw you in. Frank has a very high level of esteem, which is sexy and attractive, yet he’s also pathological in how he can separate personal matters from his job or mission. So his profile would be full of how great he is and the profile pics would very aggressive and direct – which turns a lot of woman on. Who isn’t interested in power?

 

How Frank Underwood would come off:

 

What’s even sexier are older men who don’t give a damn, and Frank definitely doesn’t care about what his image portrays, he rather be pragmatic and he knows it’s why many people don´t like him. Other men fear Frank, and so in his profile he would definitely allude to his many conquests. But the downside of that, and something many women ignore when dating older men, is that really when you add it all up he is presenting an image of self interest and that does not inspire trust. Since someone like Frank who is older won’t appear transparent to others and he leaves people wondering about his motivations making you ask, ‘why is he being so nice?’ and ‘what’s in it for him’? He makes people scared, and women love bad boys and danger so his profile would do really well. Frank would like prefer that others feared him, rather than respect him. Women who date men like Frank find these things out too late. Especially that no matter how intelligent he is, his selfishness rules supreme. But he is irresistible because no matter if people like it or not, his Machiavellian strategy usually have a purpose and he makes stinging yet relevant points in his arguments that pierce the heart of the matter and can boil everything down to what he really wants: ultimate power.

 

So, ladies be wary of men like Frank, who’d want to steal your heart only to cut it out later. Dating older men can be dangerous if they are like Frank and it’s definitely a dating profile to avoid. Here are some typical quotes Frank’s made on the show that could end up somewhere on his dating profile:

 

  1. “I love that woman. I love her more than sharks love blood.”

 

  1. “There are two kinds of pain. The sort of pain that makes you strong, or useless pain. The sort of pain that’s only suffering. I have no patience for useless things.”

 

  1. “Friends make the worst enemies.”

 

  1. “Democracy is so overrated.”

 

  1. “A great man once said, everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power.”

 

  1. “There’s no better way to overpower a trickle of doubt than with a flood of naked truth.”

 

  1. “Proximity to power deludes some into thinking they wield it.”

 

  1. “For those of us climbing to the top of the food chain, there can be no mercy. There is but one rule: hunt or be hunted.”

 

  1. “The road to power is paved with hypocrisy, and casualties.”

 

  1. “The nature of promises, Linda, is that they remain immune to changing circumstances.”

 

  1. “From this moment on you are a rock. You absorb nothing, you say nothing, and nothing breaks you.”

 

  1. “I’ve always loathed the necessity of sleep. Like death, it puts even the most powerful men on their backs.”

 

  1. “The best thing about human beings is that they stack so neatly.”

 

So when dating older men, keep your eyes peeled and watch out for a devil-tongued, handsome man with a smooth-as-caramel south Carolinian drawn who is scheming to draw you in, and then ruthlessly spit you out.

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How Men Think Differently Than Women

*This post is contributed to Spicy Scribbler Blog

This goes without saying, but we’ll mention it anyways: men and women are vastly different creatures. While some girls prefer romantic gestures and spontaneous first moves, there are guys who are more into MILF dating and one-night stands than they are into love at first sight or buying gifts. Since there are more differences between how boys and girls see things than there are similarities, it’s only natural to wonder why the ways these two genders think are so different.

Of course, there are certain standards and expectations society has imposed that makes men and women do different things, but in truth, the reason behind guys and girls thinking differently lies much more deeply – in fact, it’s our brains that are on opposite sides of the spectrum.

A One-Track Mind

There’s a reason why women are so famous for multitasking, and it’s not because men are dumb. During his “Freedom of Speech” show, stand-up comedian and Hollywood actor Eddie Griffin made a witty remark about how a guy’s brain works.

Griffin says: “A man’s got a one-track mind. When we’re watching the game, that’s all we are doing. We’re so into the game it’s like we’re playing it.” Although it’s a fairly dull comment, it makes a lot of sense if actually think about it.

No woman will ever admit it, but it’s a fact that almost all girls have their minds on many different things at any given time. On the other hand, you know that if you’re thinking about something, that’s the only thing going through your head. This is one of the main reasons why guys tend to get “in the zone” much more often than women.

Another good explanation comes from the fact that guys are prone to visualizing, while women often think in words. It might seem confusing, but try it this way – if you’re confused about something and you try to solve it in your head, you’ll usually see pictures and images of different scenarios in order to come to a solution. Contrary to this, the ladies form sentences which they put into focus in the goal of resolving a situation.

Tabula Rasa

The popular opinion about women being smarter than men doesn’t really come from male stupidity – but from our ability to think about nothing.

Turning your mind off, even for a couple of minutes, is something girls simply cannot do. Whether you’re playing video games, lifting weights in the gym, or mowing the lawn, there’s a good chance that your mind is a blank page at that point. It’s one of the greatest gifts man was given, but it’s also something women wrongly perceive as a lack of intelligence.

However, it’s a fact that women are generally more stressed than men. They’re always on the move, they like to “use” weekends to do chores instead of relaxing and sleeping in, they think too much about their appearance and about what others may think of them – and it’s all because their minds are working around the clock. Instead of looking down on men for being able to have an empty mind whenever they want, they should be envious of this ability.