Family: Why do we think that traditional and modern parenting are so different?
Nowadays, we often hear about distinctions between traditional and modern parenting methods both on television and social media networks. But, is there really any difference between traditional and modern parenting? Has the essence of the parental role changed over the time? We’ll do our best to provide the answers below.
What does traditional mean?
While some might relate the term “traditional” with a strictly reactionary nuance that makes only a part of its meaning, the truth is that traditional doesn’t necessarily mean “bad”. On the other hand, grandparents might frown upon the term “modern” and use every opportunity to express their dissatisfaction and even discuss the mistakes of the young parents on older dating sites. Still, we have to realize that passing collective knowledge, which is the result of the past experiences of the members of human society to their offsprings is completely natural, and as such will remain one of the key roles of a parent. We can still interpret some classic prohibitions and pieces of advice we often give to a child such as : “Don’t cross the street under the red” or “Don’t touch the fire because you will get burnt!” as being traditional, but these are actually timeless because this way we can rest assured that child will act based on the fear of parent and thus won’t hurt itself or get exposed to some potentially dangerous situations, which would definitely be the case should the classic prohibitions and parental orders cease to exist.
Modern as an Evolution of Traditional
Once upon a time, it was completely natural to give child a proper dose of beating here and there, so that they can learn about the consequences of doing certain things which are – according to their parent’s opinion – wrong. These days, modern parenting methods mostly emphasize the importance of communication while tending to separate the love for a child from the criticism. Namely, children needs to be aware at any moment that their parents love them unconditionally and should be able to accept the critics and realize that these are for their own sake. So, in this case, we can observe the modern parenting as an evolution of traditional parenting and not necessarily as a completely separate form of it.
The most common mistakes
It is not rare situation that a parent tries to fix their own mistakes or even try to treat a child completely opposite the way they were treated. These are bad parenting approaches for several reasons. Firstly, it is crucial to have an ear for your child’s aspirations, preferences and ambitions and not to push them too hard just because you weren’t given an opportunity to express and hone some of our talents while you were a child. On the other hand, there is a tendency to give children everything on a silver platter, without thinking about the consequences of such choices. For instance, will the child really be happy if it gets an iPhone 7, just because everyone else has it? Are we doing it in order to avoid spending the time together, because we are too tired of work and daily routine? Think about it.
It is clear that traditional and modern parenting aren’t so different. Moreover, we can observe them as complementary terms. The truth is that we are living in the 21st century and we should embrace all the positive things such as the development of psychology, science and ever-growing numbers of parenting experts that that could help us achieve a balanced and happy parent-child relationship.