Marry A Guy Who…

Read a very inspiring post from The Love Whisperer entitled “My Father’s Recipe For The Man I Should Marry” and oh boy was it spot on! It made me think well after I read it and oh wow, brings back memories I’m trying so hard to forget haha if you have time, click the title above and go read it yourself. Meanwhile, here are my favorite parts from the article :)


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Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards.

Date him when he sees that you’re hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you’re gross sobbing.

The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable.

Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting.

Make sure he has scars on the back of his hands, it’s a good sign he has experience either fighting or making things-creation is an act of selflessness and bruised knuckles are a good sign he knows how to defend himself.

Rough palms are better than soft ones, they have been salted by this earth and made into leather.

Don’t marry him if he can’t handle even a little blister.

Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person.

Get him drunk – you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts.

Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them.

You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he actswhen he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

It’s one thing if he can’t afford what you want, it’s another if he has the cash but won’t spring for a box of chicken mcnuggets.

How a man treats animals is a good indicator of how he treats children. If he’s not forgiving to a dog, he’s not good for your kids.

If he isn’t in awe of you, he doesn’t deserve you.

You are my little girl and you were born perfect. If he can’t see that, it’s his loss.

There is someone who thinks your flaws power his heart. Be strong.


  • Anonyous

    October 29, 2014

    I agree with pretty much everything except this one.

    “How a man treats animals is a good indicator of how he treats children. If he’s not forgiving to a dog, he’s not good for your kids.”

    This is simply not true. some people are just not animal/pet people. I know many people who adore their kids, but cant stand pets.

    • Spicy Girl

      October 29, 2014

      Honestly, I’m not a pet person myself but it’s a part of the article. I hope you like the other points :) Thanks for stopping by!:)

  • Rita

    October 29, 2014

    Excellent advice, especially on addiction & sober thoughts after drinking. A good belly laugh will get a couple thru life & creates wonderful memories. Rough hands does mean he’s willing to try to make it work.

    • Spicy Girl

      October 29, 2014

      Thanks! :) I really like this article. I hope you liked it too :)

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