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How To Be More Confident During A Date

*This post is contributed to Spicy Scribbler Blog

If we we’re being completely honest, we would have to admit that dating isn’t the easiest game you could play. If the fear of rejection or the very good chance of any date going wrong weren’t enough, there’s also the problem of lacking confidence when it comes to trying to pick up a girl at a bar or to meet people online.

Believing in yourself is something you’ll definitely need in order to be successful at dating. And while some men only think that they got the guys but fail miserably when it comes to execution, others can’t even muster enough confidence to give online dating a shot. In that name, here are some tips on how to build your doing confidence without much effort.

Your Outside Matters…

Even though it’s usually expected of girl to put on their best face for a date, there’s nothing wrong with a guy who tries to look his best in order to give himself a confidence boost.

Our exterior is the very first thing that attracts or repels others. If your appearance lacks style, neatness or any general sense of what “matching clothes” means, you’re not very likely to make girls interested in you, which in turn negatively impacts your confidence.

Instead, don’t be afraid to put on whatever makes you look as handsome as possible, without overdoing it, of course. If you’ve got a piece of clothing that you’ve recently bought, take it out for a spin. If you have a pair of shoes that you really love but haven’t worn in a while, dust them off and add them to your stylish combination. It’s things like these that can make a guy’s confidence skyrocketed, whether we do or do not want to admit that our looks matter to us.

Also, let’s not forget that our smell is also part of our exterior. That sensual, intense and pleasant fragrance you like won’t only work with the ladies, but will also make you feel better about yourself.

…But Your Inside Matters More

Now that you’re all done taking care of your appearance, it’s time to make sure you’ve got the right attitude for an ensured dating confidence boost.

The first and foremost thing you need to do is to calm your mind. Letting your thoughts fall into place will allow you to see your target more clearly, as well as letting you overcome your fears and fill your head with happy thoughts instead of negative questions like “What if she doesn’t like me?” or “What if I say something stupid.

It’s actually this kind of thinking that makes most guys lose their confidence. Obsessing about various bad outcomes of a date ca seriously impact your dating game, as it won’t let you actually relax and be yourself. And since being yourself is directly connected to believing in yourself, it’s easy to see why negative thinking is a big no-no.

Finally, the most radical thing you can do in order to get a confidence boost is to be in control of a date. Plan everything out and make sure to put a surprise somewhere in there – this will both ensure that your date is impressed and will provide you with a power trip that’s good for your confidence.

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How To Change Your Beliefs For The Better

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Beliefs, no matter how trivial they may seem, can actually be significantly powerful thanks to our emotions. For example, thinking “I shouldn’t have watched celebrity snapchats until 7:50 P.M.” is a strong belief that cannot easily be changed simply because we connect it to guilt or embarrassment. You believe that you’ve made a mistake when you didn’t start preparing for your date with that hot girl and now you feel guilty for running late on your night out.

We live in an age where being intellectually smart and highly educated is not a rare thing. Each individual has a wide spectrum of interests and opinions, but considering how much ‘brainpower’ we have at our disposal, one would assume that changing a belief isn’t a hard thing to do.

And while this is true in some cases, there are still situations in which we try to quickly swap two opposite thoughts, but the one which was originally responsible for forming an opinion keeps coming back to us more often that we would like. Does this mean some beliefs are stronger than others? Is there a way to effectively and permanently change an opinion? If a technique works for changing one belief, does it have to be reversed to change another?

The answer to all of the questions above is “yes.” But as you can assume, things aren’t quite that simple. With that in mind, let’s take a look into how beliefs are formed and what we can do to change them.

Understanding Before All Else

The first thing you need to do before you even try to change a belief is to understand what makes us attached to our beliefs in the first place.

Aside for the abovementioned example, there is also the case of having strong emotions towards others, which in turn forms beliefs. Feeling anger or resentment about someone can make you believe that they are stupid, ignorant, ugly or annoying, even though they actually may have any of these negative traits.

So, in order to change a belief, you must first change how you feel about something or someone. In this case, your intellect is submissive to your emotions and it’s simply not something you can overcome or bypass.

A Different Angle

Now that you understand that it’s actually your emotions that are causing your beliefs to be so strongly embedded in your mind, it’s time to release those feelings in order to give yourself a fresh start. And the best way to do that is to think as objectively and as rationally as possible.

This isn’t an easy thing to do (especially to some people), but it’s an absolute necessity if you really want to change a belief. All you need to do is shift your perspective and look at the situation from the outside – sounds simple enough, but it’s easier said than done.

Once you’ve objectively perceived all aspects of the given situation, the only thing that’s left for you to do is to actually stop believing that your old belief is a valid one. This might be the hardest step in the whole process, but if you manage to complete it, you’ll notice how easy it is to form a new and different belief once you’ve convinced yourself that the old one had no ground to stand on.

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Top Travel Destinations for Music Lovers

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Most of us love to travel, and in the 21st century it has become easier than ever to plan out a trip. A quick look on Instagram or the forums on tripadvisor is often enough to get our wanderlust going. Where we choose to go on our vacations, whether in the same country or abroad, is so often based upon our interests in life. Planning the vacation of a lifetime is going to probably have some consideration for the things you are passionate about, whether that means cuisine, sports or in this case, music.

You don’t have to be a musician to understand the rich and amazing history music has around the globe. Music cultures have developed separately all over the world from the Jazz clubs of America to the Heavy Metal scene in Scandinavia. Certain locations have become synonymous with the industry.

Liverpool, England – So much of the popular music today can be traced back to one band who changed everything; The Beatles. People flock to their famous home, Liverpool, to see the museums and numerous tributes to the fab four including Strawberry Fields playing field and the Cavern Club. Liverpool’s music scene is still thriving today and there is plenty to see and do for all lovers of rock and roll music.

Memphis, Tennessee – There are few locations where the musical history is so palpable. Beale Street is perhaps the most famous musical street in America, and Memphis is known for gospel, soul and being the birthplace of rock and roll. Johnny Cash, Elvis Presley and Jerry Lee Lewis all made their name in the city.

New York – New York is an amazing cultural melting pot, and remains so today. Buskers on the subway and city streets can be seen performing everything from classical medleys to hip hop and beatbox jams with a loop pedal and microphone. The city boasts clubs and bars to suit almost every music taste.

Vienna, Austria – Vienna is the undisputed capital of classical music and has been home to Mozart, Brahms, Beethoven, Haydn and so many more influential composers. The beautiful city is littered with parks and venues which proudly show the musical history of this stunning city. If you plan to see a classical performance in your lifetime, be sure to make Vienna top of the bucket list.

London, England – It is little surprise that two English cities make the list. Great Britain is a country that is known for a history of influential music movements, from punk rock to electronica. Whether you visit the famous Ronnie Scotts jazz venue, take a trip to Abbey Road studios or just check out some of the best buskers in the world in London’s underground system, there is something in this city for everyone to fall in love with.

Berlin, Germany – For a glimpse of the future in terms of music, Berlin is a city for music lovers, especially those with a love of technology and electronic genres of music. The clubs in Berlin are known all round the world, and whether you like pounding techno music or think that it is the worst thing imaginable, the technology centered music scene is fascinating.

About the Author: Ben is a musician and blogger from the UK who writes about music production, technology and equipment at