How to survive Being Married to a Musician
Musicians are pretty hot and we believe that majority of ladies will agree on this. Dating a one, however, or even being married to one come with some specific challenges that only women who are actually being involved with them are familiar with. On the other hand, there are some tips that can help you have a marriage made in heaven, even with one such a hottie. So, if you’re currently feeling unhappy or dubious, make sure to read these, just before you decide to resort to more extreme measures such as trying out local dating behind his back because things can actually work out just fine if you’re wise enough.
Don’t be Jealous
Jealousy, in reasonable extent, of course, can be a great stimulus and spice in any marriage, but we know that ladies who are married to musicians are in somewhat different position since they are probably aware there are lot of gals who are practically throwing themselves at their hubbies – so in their minds, all comes down to this: the more gigs, the more potential troubles he can get in. And even though you might be aware that your spouse is probably nothing like Slash from Guns N’ Roses golden era or that he seldom has an opportunity to get entranced by the sight of bare boobs like it used to happen back in the day on Mötley Crüe concerts, you can’t help but keep imagining just how many bras will eventually reach the stage of a club in the town that he’s currently playing at.
This is perfectly normal but you should still do your best as to restrain from such thoughts, and not even think of mentioning them out loud because the chances are he won’t react so well. Anyways, you should make sure to keep your mind occupied with actual problems because it’s the best way to avoid the trap known as jealousy. After all, he chose to marry you for a reason, and the definition of musician doesn’t include promiscuity by default. Finally, he probably can’t afford himself to lose the focus by looking at girls in the audience all the time since he’s too busy playing or singing.
Further, it’s perfectly normal and even biological the need to look at the people of opposite sex, especially if they’re attractive, but this doesn’t automatically assume that an affair is bound to happen. Admit it, even you occasionally take a look at that handsome guy who comes to your gym or your favorite coffee shop but it’s just because you admire him for being in such great shape. And there’s nothing wrong with it, right?
People who are into music or any type of art actually are deriving their positive energy and satisfaction in general by being able to do something they love, regardless of whether it brings them considerable incomes or they’re doing it just for their soul’s sake. This means that you should be supportive when it comes to a life path that your man has chosen because only then can you expect that he will do the same for you. We’re often forgetting that love is a two-way street and if you’re judging his lifestyle now, even though you were perfectly aware of what you got yourself into the moment the two of you started dating, you should better prepare for quarrels and other negative situations that will most likely become a part of your everyday reality. And this is something that you should avoid at all cost because it could eventually ruin your marriage.
Enjoy your own hobbies and activities
So, his next gig is in Nashville and you live in New York and just so it happens that you can’t tag along because there’s no room on the tour bus, for example. Big deal! After all, there will always be the next gig, and in the meanwhile, you can enjoy some quality time with friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or pamper yourself with spa weekend or something similar. If the two of you have kids, focus on helping them with their homework and arrange various activities that will make your day busy so that you won’t have to lament over the fact that he’s somewhere on the other part of the country while you’re stuck at home.
On the other hand, you can also look at this from a positive side and use it as a God-sent excuse to enjoy some of your own hobbies for a change. Revel in the fact that you don’t have to deal with a long bus drive and finish that poem of yours you started writing a couple of months ago, for instance. Visit your favorite bookstore or buy some new sexy lingerie that will reignite the passion when he comes back from the road. The possibilities are basically countless for you to have a good and quality time while on your own, and deep down you know that we’re right!
Are you married to a musician? How are your experiences so far? We’re dying to hear from you in the comment section below!