Top 8 Things You’ll Learn Very Quickly When Dating a Musician
If you’re into local dating, you never know whose eye you might catch. Your suitor may be an IT geek, a sales director, a hair stylist or a musician looking for a new love interest. If you happen to start dating said musician, you’re in for one heck of a ride, and here’s why.
Their Gigs Will Be Your Dates
Between touring, writing new songs, securing record deals and struggling to keep all band mates happy, your music beau will rarely have the time to take you out on a proper date. With that being said, you’ll be very welcome to join him every time his band has a live performance, and technically it will be a Friday or a Saturday night, you’ll be out and in the same room together, there will be drinks and music, which almost constitutes as a date, right?
People Will Hit On Him, And You’ll Be There To See It
After the shows, people will want to talk to the band, touch them, see them up close and personal, congratulate them on a great performance, and those particularly brave ones (a.k.a. groupies) won’t see a problem in asking your beau what he’s doing later, after the show, with you standing right there to hear it. It will suck, but if you want to stick around, you better get used to it.
You Better Like His Music
If he cares enough about you, he’ll find your relationship very inspirational and will want to express how he feels about you through his music. If you’re going to be someone’s muse, you better like their art, otherwise you might hinder the creative process and seal the faith of your relationship.
His Ex Was Inspirational Too
Chances are, his ex also inspired some great songs, and you’ll get a chance to listen to them to no end as you become a regular at his gigs. Everybody has baggage, but when that baggage is linked to someone’s work, it’s hard to leave it in the past. Don’t take it personally, it comes with the territory.
You Won’t Always Come First
In all likelihood, the band will come first although he might not openly admit it. What’s worse, if your musician has a job on the side, his schedule is pretty packed and making room for you in it might not be as easy as you’d both like. You might never sleep again because he’ll be available at night, but here’s hoping he’s worth it.
Share His Passion
He sure is very passionate about his favorite band/musician/singer but you’ve honestly never heard of them. You’ll never hear a musician say their favorite artist is Lady Gaga (not that we don’t love her), but it will always be somebody that mere mortals like us don’t even know exists, like Steven Wilson (again, no pun intended).
His Existential Crisis Is The End Of The World
When he’s feeling down and depressed, the amount of negativity around him will be unbearable. Self-loathing comes with the talent, and you better not be within punching distance. He won’t be physically violent per se, but he will torment you psychologically to no end. And then one day he’ll wake up, his spirits through the roof again, and life will go on like nothing ever happened.
You’ll Never Travel Together
His idea of traveling abroad involves a tour bus, countless liters of beer and 3 hours of sleep per night. You’ll never go on a vacation together, and you won’t travel the world. His idea of being off revolves more around binge-watching his favorite shows than visiting museums or stunning beaches.